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How to Avoid Awkward Sex Scenes

Maxine Higginbotham • May 16, 2022

Keep your novel's sex scene narrative fun and engaging.

Just in case—If you aren't 18+, you should probably not read this.


No one enjoys reading awkward intimate scenes. Your intimate scenes should be as well-written as the rest of your manuscript. They can serve to push the plot along and give readers a view into your characters motivations and vulnerabilities. All while getting the reader hot and spicy, if that's your vibe. I'm sharing 5 tips to making sure your intimate scenes are worthy of your characters.


  1. Don't force yourself into writing more explicitly than you're comfortable with. If you aren't comfortable, it will show through. On the other hand, don't be afraid of just going for it either!
  2. Make the scene more than Slot C going into Slot A. Remember, this is a great time to allow your characters to feel vulnerable and open. Sex often brings out another side that those around us rarely see. Let that shine through.
  3. Have your characters talk about how their skin feels, how things smell and taste and sound. Use all your senses to help show the reader what is happening in the scene.
  4. Keep your euphemisms out of the bedroom . . . or the kitchen . . . or anywhere else your characters might decide to have some fun. The time of throbbing members and heaving bosums is past. There is nothing wrong with using breast, tit, cock, and dick.
  5. Truly think about how body parts move and feel. Also remember body parts are not sentient and they do not have thoughts.


Bonus tip: Not that you need an excuse, but watching porn can help with ideas and positions. Practice with a partner to see if a position is possible and pleasurable. If you don’t have a willing partner, you can use posable action figures. Even when I’m just editing these scenes, I’ll sometimes get out my action figures to help keep track of body parts.


What are your suggestions for less awkward sex scenes in Romance novels? Share any funny ones you've read lately!

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